One of the most common phrases uttered in therapy is “what if” closely followed by at least five other variations of what if thoughts. What if I leave this job and don’t find something I like better? What if I can never find a job? What if they never text me back? What if they text me back and it’s not what I want to hear? What if I never have another miscarriage? What if I never get pregnant? What if I never feel healthy again? Each of these nebulous what if clouds can bri

It’s Monday morning drop-off at school for my daughter, my least favorite corner of the week. Monday morning means not only do we need the backpack and lunchbox (which of course we did not clean out on Friday - ew), but we also need the nap bag that includes the brightly labeled nap blanket and tiny pillow. I come downstairs feeling like I have already lived a full day waking up extra early to get ready before my daughter is awake, getting her ready for school, packing her l

I feel the urge to scroll. I can picture my finger on the phone, my eyes skimming the monotonous feed that won’t have anything new to show me since I just did my social media laps an hour ago. Or if there is new content, it’s the bottom of the barrel content consisting largely of ads or people and places I don’t care about. Yet, I scroll on. What do you do when you have trained your mind that the reward for working hard, taking a walk, or being fully engaged at work, an acti